There are many people at fault and we can all have an opinion. So many people are arguing with others over their opinion about a situation that we’ll never know all the details about. People are arguing over a man they don’t really know or upset with those that don’t share the same exact opinion. Your opinion is not better than anybody else’s...
So of course I signed up for it and waited for a confirmation email that never came! Again, I still wasn’t nervous or anxious; if I don’t get in, I don’t get in, and at least I tried. That’s what I told myself. I didn’t want to put any pressure on it just in case I was disappointed (another habit of mine to manage my expectations of things). But, the universe had other plans for me. I received my confirmation email the day before after stalking Myleik’s IG page and seeing comments on her post that said they would be going out soon!
Wants and needs are the driving force of our lives. You do what you have to do, in order to do what you want to do. You know you don’t need to be friends with an ex, if you needed them, breaking up would not be an option. You have to want to be friends with your ex in order for it to work. You have to want the friendship and the value it will bring to your life post-breakup. The value has to be worth the awkward period that you will go through to get to a “normal” place; or the awkward conversations about why you are still friends with your ex when friends, family, and future mates inquire.
I celebrated my 31st birthday at the beginning of month by taking some time off. I relaxed and had what I called a mental health break. I took a break from putting stress on myself to do everything. I took a break from overthinking.
In all of that, I also realized that my fears are not real - I created them. It is my mindset that is making me believe these things. It is my own mind stopping me from acting because I am scared to execute my plan because I don't know what will happen...it's like a never-ending cycle if I allow it to be. The only way the cycle can be broken is if I start acting on what I want.
I’ve created and deleted at least four previous websites centered around this idea but none of them have been exactly what I imagined. This time around, I’m not working toward perfection or immediate success. Instead I’m just working, working to be consistent, working to be productive, but mostly working toward my goals every day.
Most times I do not feel as confident or comfortable when I don’t have a plan. When I am comfortable, I am confident so when I am not comfortable with a plan of action or lack thereof, I become shell of myself and sometimes find it difficult to work in a situation or project if it is too unorganized.
Being able to maintain relationships is an underrated skill in our society; relationships are the thread that hold our lives togehter. Being able to maintain relationships assists in building emotional security, positive self-esteem, and empathy for others. The ways you express love to them at a young age will stay with them forever.
Oftentimes it isn’t making the decision that is difficult, instead, it is dealing with the consequences of the decision. These five questions help me to prepare for the changes that will come with a major decision.
A few years ago, I figured that if I did less of the “traditional” resolutions maybe I’d be more successful at achieving them. I decided to get rid of the traditional, activity-based resolutions like eat better, work out more, spend less, etc. and instead, adopt more lifestyle focused mantras into my daily living, like “do what you love, love what you do.” I wanted to change my ways of thinking which would then influence my actions versus just forcing myself to change my habits because it was going to be a new year and everyone else was sharing their resolutions.
I decided to post an ad on Craigslist. It was free and what else did I have to lose right? On the day that the ad was set to expire, someone responded. After a few email exchanges…it was confirmed! The couple was sweet and genuine. They were straight-forward in their requests for their ceremony and made it very easy for a first-timer like me to be confident despite the nerves that undoubtedly showed themselves a day before the ceremony.
But...I do believe that I am getting closer to what I had in mind when I first dreamed of this blog idea. As always, its a work in progress.
I began compiling all my research on productivity, goal-setting, and procrastination with all the personal failures I had experienced to help me create the blueprint for my journey and this blog
I started listening to podcasts and following different social media influencers and decided that, there is no time like the present. So what if I don't have all my content created for the next 30 days, so what that my website doesn't have all the things I want; none of those things should stop me from starting! At this moment in time, my website represents who I am, where I want to go and the work needed in order to reach my goals.
Be patient with me, I fail daily especially when it comes to my time management. I'm working on my discipline everyday and this blog is going to definitely be a testament to my trials and triumphs when it comes to becoming more disciplined.
